PLEDGES AND PRINCIPLES
Principles of Choi Kwang Do
It is good to be confident in yourself and to always strive to be the best you can be. Yet, truly successful people strive not only to be their best, but to be great in how they treat others and celebrate their talents.
Humility is about being modest, respectful and putting others before yourself. It is not calling attention to yourself or being rude. It is about gratitude. It is about good sportsmanship.
Humility is something to apply to every aspect of your life. It is about being courteous and saying “please” and “thank you” all the time, not occasionally. It is about being able to apologise to others even if you are just slightly in the wrong. It is also about listening and being open to learning from others. Being humble is recognising that everyone has different strengths and paying compliments to other people.
As a young person, humility is one of the most important things you can develop. Being humble makes you a better person, a better student and a better teammate. Here are some great quotes on the topic of humility:
“A great man is always willing to be little.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Pride is concerned with WHO is right. Humility is concerned with WHAT is right.” – Ezra Taft Benson
“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” – C.S. Lewis
“It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.” – Mahatma Gandhi
“Every person that you meet knows something you don’t; learn from them.” – H. Jackson Brown Jr.
Integrity is defined as ‘the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles’. Integrity is about making good choices. It is doing the right things for the right reason. It is about being honest with yourself and honest with others.
Sometimes you may not be sure what the right thing to do is in a situation. When this happens, you can ask yourself a few simple questions to come up with the right answer, such as: “How will this decision affect others?” “Am I considering how this will make other people feel?” ” Will I be proud to tell my parents or teacher that I did this?”
Doing the right thing is an incredibly important thing. It will affect your friendships, your family, your community and your future. Little choices that we make can have big consequences on ourselves and others.
Below are some inspirational quotes that help explain the importance of integrity, honesty and doing the right thing.
“The right to do something does not mean that doing it is right.” – William Safire
“Character is doing the right thing when nobody’s looking.” – J.C. Watts
“When I do good, I feel good. When I do bad, I feel bad.” – Abraham Lincoln
“You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.” – Malcolm Forbes
“Be true to your work, your word, and your friend.” -Henry David Thoreau
“Anyone who doesn’t take truth seriously in small matters cannot be trusted in large ones either.” -Albert Einstein
Why is Gentleness important?
Gentleness is recognising our own capacity to do harm and instead choosing to be considerate and thoughtful. Gentleness doesn’t mean being weak. Gentleness can be firm, even powerful. To behave in a gentle manner requires that we stay centred in our own values and strength.
How can we be gentle?
So how do we develop gentleness in our lives?
* By showing respect to others
* By looking after ourselves
* By admitting mistakes
* By thinking about the words we use and our tone of voice
* By supporting others
* By not judging others
Perseverance is ….
* When we start and finish a job
* When we don’t get distracted from a task/activity until it is complete and well done
* When we still complete work which we find difficult or even boring
* Not giving up when something becomes challenging
* Not being scared of failure
* Hard work, commitment and patience
* Trying again and again and again
* Not allowing obstacles to get in our way, but rather thinking of solutions
* When we persevere, people trust us
* When we persevere, we improve our skills
* When we persevere we achieve more
* When we persevere we feel good about what we achieve
* When we persevere we become stronger
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” – Thomas A. Edison
Self Control/ Self Mastery is one of the most valuable skills that one can develop. It is an inner strength that allows you to be in charge of your emotional responses and behaviour instead of a victim to them/ reactive. Self Control helps you to do what you know is the right thing to do, to help you achieve your goals and steer you in the right direction. A typical hour-long class begins and ends with a bow to the teacher a minute of silent sitting and a recitation of the promise/pledge and principles. After a warm-up, students practice different aspects of the art which include kicks, punches, blocks, patterns, speed drills, defence drills and shield work. Each requires concentration and strict attention.
Progress is marked by the belt system, which takes the beginner from a white belt through a variety of colours until black. Testing for each new level is a good exercise in setting and achieving goals.
But, in terms of the benefits for Kids, say experts, it’s the respect they learn, whether from bowing or standing still and waiting for the next command, that can be the most important benefit: It often carries over into school, helping to improve behaviour and even grades, according to recent research.
By studying Choi Kwang Do, students learn the importance of, and value in perseverance, even if things become challenging.
They will learn how to motivate themselves – even when things aren’t immediately easy and achievable and, in doing so, develop important life skills of grit, determination and resilience.
Not only this, but when you succeed in something as a result of hard-work and focus, you also have a greater sense of achievement, more belief in your own abilities and a feeling of self-confidence and self-worth.
Through Choi Kwang Do, students are encouraged to set their own goals and strive to achieve them, but also learn how to cope with the fact that they will not always achieve everything straight away.
‘Unbreakable Spirit’ – the ability to have perseverance and keep trying – to remain positive and to be driven is something that can positively impact all areas of life.